advice for cis people who want to argue about trans* issues with trans* people
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(via projectqueer)
You seem to think that just because I’m “young” that I haven’t thought this through, but I have to live every day thinking about how I’m misgendered and disrespected. I have to live every day knowing that when I look in a mirror I won’t like what I see. You seriously think I haven’t thought about it? When you’re stuck in a wrong body, call me and tell me how little you think about changing it. Until then, please shut up and let me do what I want with my own body.
Anonymous asked: Have you had any people be rude about you and your girlfriend? How do you deal with that? I need tips
With my current girlfriend, no. But with my first girlfriend I had a lot of people ask her if she was a lesbian because she was “dating a girl”. No one was rude to me personally, though.
I guess the way we handled it was by educating those people on what it means for someone to be transgender. If they continued to be ignorant after we had educated them, then we did our best to ignore them, which is not always easy. But if you’re happy with your relationship, then you shouldn’t let other people ruin that for you.
I would suggest you (and your partner) look at http://partnersof-ftm.tumblr.com/ or, for some humor, http://transparrotfishsignificantother.tumblr.com/
TheFTM Resources Page →
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(via transawareness)
Anonymous asked: Isn't it annoying because you are not sure who knows?
Yup. It’s extremely annoying. I have a general idea of who knows and who doesn’t when I’m at home, but at college I have no idea. So I just pretend only the people that I told know.
Anonymous asked: Do you not like it when people comment on how you have been changing?
It’s funny that you ask because I was actually thinking about this last night. I don’t mind if people comment because I don’t really notice what changes I have gone through until people tell me. I only mind when people comment on it around people that I’m not out to. And I don’t mean people that know about me, I mean people that I, personally, have told or people that I have given permission to someone else to tell.
If I haven’t personally told someone, or allowed someone to tell that person, then I’m not comfortable discussing my transition with or near them. Nor do I feel comfortable with other people discussing it with them without my consent. The only exception to that is this Tumblr because I obviously don’t know everyone that reads the things I post, but I also am not giving out all the info about my transition.
Anonymous asked: Why do you wish you could stay in Madison?
All of my friends are in Madison and I don’t like living with my parents in general, it doesn’t have anything to do with my transition. There’s more freedom in Madison. However, all of my doctors are at home.
Anonymous asked: What are your plans for summer break? Are you staying in Madison or moving back home? How will things be with your parents if you do move home?
I have moved back home for summer. Things with my parents are fine. My mom calls me by my name and uses male pronouns and neither of them are trying to stop me from scheduling surgery consultations or anything of that sort. I wish I were staying in Madison, though.
Anonymous asked: What's a CIS person?
“Cisgender is a term used to describe people who, for the most part, identify as the gender they were assigned at birth.” -http://www.basicrights.org/uncategorized/trans-101-cisgender/
